Trust Is Built in the Smallest Moments

Today, in our placement session, we were given a topic to discuss:

"How do you gain someone's trust in a new environment?"

We really had a great time discussing a lot of insightful points.

One of the points that stayed with me was this:

How important is it to make someone feel comfortable? And again, how are you going to do that?

Basically, you should give them assurance. Build a safe circle. Make them feel that you are there for them. Let them believe that they'll be seen, listened to, understood, and never judged with any prejudice.

Especially when it comes to children, gaining their trust is quite a difficult task. But once they start believing in you, you'll realize how privileged and fortunate it is to gain such a tiny soul's trust.

Whenever my neighbour's little daughter comes home, those moments are just overwhelming. And I could literally trace the arc of our bond—how she used to be with me a year back, and how much we have grown now.

A year back, she was just three years old. So every single day, she's growing and undergoing so many developmental changes. That's a separate department altogether. 😂

But along with her age, the bond between us too gradually grew very beautifully.

In this one year, just like her, I too have grown—not in height 😂—but within myself.

And so have our bond and trust.

Now, the very minute she enters the house, she'll start looking for me, screaming,

"Sami akka!"

If I'm not home, she'll slowly return to her house.

Only when you gain their trust do they start including you in their little world.

That's one of the things I've noticed about kids.

Nowadays, whenever she goes out, she'll inform me. She'll tell me that she's going to buy something for me too, whatever she's buying for herself.

And before leaving, she'll always say,

"Don't close the door. I'll come."

After some time, she'll somehow come back, show me whatever she bought, and talk to me all about it.

Again, even here, there's a nuanced thing.

She trusts that I won't take away her things. 😂

It may sound like a very small thing, but these little things actually matter.

She knows that once she comes in, I'll listen to her.

No matter how busy I am, I'll put my phone aside and sit with her.

Again...

Trust.

When they actually like you and believe you to be part of their trusted circle, they'll show you all their mischievous activities.

The cutest thing that happened today was...

I asked her,

"How do I smile?"

OMG...

That was literally the cutest sight I witnessed today.

She squeezed her tiny eyes almost shut, showed every single tooth she had, tried so hard to bring out my dimple, and smiled with such innocence.

These kids don't even know how much they transform us.

With their very simple actions, they make our day so much better.

That one hug...

That one kiss...

Filled with so much trust...

Just elevates you.

I'm really glad that I got to experience that feeling once again today.

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